Dr. Chua Soi Lek’s confession was the right thing for him to do for setting the best standard for owning up and taking responsibility for one’s action and accountability.

His response is laudable, so unlike and putting to shame those who knew the laws inside out and sought self-preservations in not making self-incriminating statements, denying what were seen to be undeniable and causing great wastage of time and resources paid for by all of us as taxpayers.

But Dr. Chua’s biggest mistake was to abruptly resign as MP for his Labis constituency and shirk his responsibilities to those who voted for him.

He might have acted rashly in resigning from even his MP post after being convinced that he had lost the support of the public basing on results of 2 opinion polls showing 91% and 99% of people polled (how representative were they?) wanted him to resign, and probably unfavorable opinions of OKT and the PM who had subsequently readily accepted his resignation.

But, there was no evidence that after his public confession and apology, the majority of the people in Labis did not want him as their MP anymore. Most of them might have identified with him, being humans born with the weakness of the flesh. After the scandal, he could be more approachable and humbler. By resigning as their parliamentary representative, he had forsaken them. Theoretically a by-election need not be conducted for up to 2 years upon his resignation even though in reality it could be about 3 months. To them with Dr. Chua soldiering on, something might be better than nothing, more so now that he had relinquished all his other responsibilities, he could have concentrated full time as their dedicated representative to attempt to solve whatever woes they might have.

Even if there are replacements, in the form of OKT doubling up as temporary Health Minster and tripling up as a temporary MP for Labis, the people there may prefer the devil that they knew than the angel that they do not know. It is for the people of Labis to judge whether Dr. Chua had done enough for them and want to reelect him in the coming general election.

Almost all of us are the products or byproducts of millions of years of the sex act. Most of us do not realize that nature has been playing games with all forms of life, which were designed to obey the cosmic laws which ordain procreation and other actions for the purposes of continuation of species’ survival. The homo sapien is the only species to regulate behavior to prevent chaos using religions and laws otherwise broken families, unwanted babies and diseases may get out of hand.

In nature’s sex game, testoterone, a male sex hormone is so powerful that no religions and laws can suppress the commissions of inappropriate sex acts. Attempts at suppression can lead to undesirable consequences. Abstinence may lead to priests turning into paedophiles, and normal humans turning into gays and lesbians. If a normal person does not engage in sex and masturbation, he can not prevent wet dreams, which are usually accompanied by erotic dreams and orgasms. I just can not figuring out how normal celibate holy people cope with the cosmic laws on sex without engaging in surreptitious and inappropriate sex acts. Intelligent people tend to have very strong libido, which is part of nature’s plan for natural selection. The late President Kennedy was reported to have said that if he did not indulge in frequent sex, he would suffer from severe headache. Former President Bill Clinton could not find a better explanation for his inappropriate sexual relationship with Lewinsky than to say “I did it because I could”. It is impossible for normal people not to participate in nature’s compulsory sex games without serious undesirable consequences. Sigmund Freud the world-famous psychologist knew it when he posited that sexual deprivation could lead to mental illness.

High levels of testosterone besides being recognized as the hormone of sexual desires, has been attributed to criminal tendencies. Effects of serial rapists’ high testosterone levels on their conducts can be so overpowering that their biological urges may only be controlled by chemical castration using Depo Provera to suppress their testoterone productions.

Women’s bodies also produce testosterone, but in about 20 times lesser amount than those of men. That is the reason why all the time men rape women; we seldom hear of women raping men. It is extremely rare. A couple of years ago, the NST reported that a few women forced their male victims to take Viagra before raping them. Studies have shown that high testosterone levels are linked to violence in female inmates.

Following nature’s sex game, after women have given birth, their breast will be full of milk and they have to breastfeed their newborns, else they will feel great discomfort and even fever. They have to do it to relieve themselves because it is nature’s plan to force them to breastfeed babies.

Similarly, after mother hens have laid eggs, their breasts will feel so uncomfortably warm that they had to cool themselves by sitting on the eggs. They have to do it to relieve themselves because it is nature’s plan to force them to hatch the eggs. The mother hens will be totally surprised when little chicks emerged.

All of us will indulge in the sex act because we have to obey the cosmic laws on procreation. Nature has a way to make sure we participate in her game by enticing us with libidos and orgasms, like forcing certain actions for relieving discomforts for breastfeeding women and the egg-laying mother hens.

Then why was the sex act so wrong that Dr. Chua had to forsake those who had elected him before his term was up? Some people might reason that if he could betray his wife’s trust, he could also betray the people’s trust in him. This kind of rationalization may be flawed because the two kinds of betrayals are governed by different laws, the former by cosmic laws, the later by man-made laws. It is almost impossible to defy cosmic laws whereas it is much easier to comply or seen to comply with man-made laws. If the glaring RM4.6 billion PKFZ scandal, etc., etc., etc. can hitherto be condoned, why can’t a personal scandal between two consenting adults be condoned? Furthermore, if his wife could forgive him and stood by him, why can’t the people do likewise? We do not know anything about his relationship with his wife, and why he had strayed. It is for him and his wife to examine factors which could affect marital disorders, one of which is sexual incompatibility, which could develop with the aging process without their realizing it.

Sexual incompatibility may develop in marriages and many couples accept it, though not at all happily, without allowing it to endanger their marriages. In some marriages it appears to be the primary cause of deepening marital conflicts when widening differences in sexual drives due to hormonal changes from aging give rise to disillusionments and frustrations in sexual relationships. As women age, their levels of circulating testosterone gradually decline, along with sexual desires around menopause. It’s understood that testosterone also contributes to the health of a woman’s vulva and regrowth of the vital tissue of the clitoris. The option for testosterone replacement therapy is available, for both women and men. The idea is not to make women super-sexual, but to tailor the therapy to individual needs. Admittedly, stress, anxiety, exhaustion, the various ups and downs of life and relationships can also reduce sexual desires besides critical reduction in testosterone production. Further discussion on how to deal with sexual incompatibility and how to improve sexual relationships between partners may be beyond the scope of this blog.

However as for the sex scandal, it is pertinent to note that the personal friend was a willing partner, not underage and not someone’s wife. Not suggesting there was engagement of oral sex, imho laws against consensual oral sex done in privacy between consenting adults are bad laws and should be repealed, because they could easily be abused for malicious destruction of partners’ lives in relationships gone sour. If I am not mistaken, Singapore had already done it a few years ago. Hence, Dr. Chua should be judged only by the people in his constituency for only they would know if he had done enough for them to justify his staying on as their MP, and whether they wished to reelect him in the coming general election.

Dr. Chua was a victim of criminal invasion of privacy. Apparently it was the leadership in MCA — who could condone the RM4.6 billion PKFZ scandal, etc., etc., etc. — who wanted him out, and not the people who mattered most to him, his family, his supporters and the people of Labis. He may need to seriously consider standing for reelection in Labis to stage a political comeback to restore honor and dignity to himself, his family and all those who still support him, perhaps with the support of the opposition party DAP or as an independent.

DarkHorse,

Just like people who are biased who would only look at evidence they want to see, and declaring anything else against their preconceived opinions as irrelevant, we have people here who have very parochial and blinkered views, who can not figure out the relevance of wide-ranging matters beyond their comprehension.

DarkHorse,

Thanks for perusing what I wrote and listing out what you think may be controversial statements.

Check with your lady doctor friend the veracity of those statements and report back to us.

Do not distort my statements, e.g. I did not say “regenerating vulva and clitoris”. I did not say “the regrowth of the clitoris”?

I mentioned that “It’s understood that testosterone also contributes to the health of a woman’s vulva and regrowth of the vital tissue of the clitoris.” basing on internet research.

Thanks, DAPHNE.

Well said, DAPHNE,
Jong, DarkHorse, pay heed.